How to recognize Child Abuse
Updated: Dec 12, 2022
What is child abuse?
There are many forms of child abuse. Children can experience physical, emotional or sexual abuse or neglect. Learn the signs of child abuse so you can recognize them. If you suspect a child is experiencing abuse, seek professional help and keep the child away from the abuser.
Child abuse is hurting a child. It occurs when a child experiences harm or neglect. Often, the abuser is someone the child knows. It may be a parent, family member, caregiver or family friend.
Most U.S. child abuse laws agree on this definition of child abuse: Any intentional harm or mistreatment of a child under age 18 is abuse and a criminal offense.
Another term for child abuse and neglect is adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). If untreated, these experiences can impact a child’s lifelong health and well-being.
What are the types of child abuse?
Child abuse can come in many forms:
Physical: Slapping, pushing, punching, kicking, shaking or burning a child or not allowing a child to eat, drink or use the bathroom.
Emotional: Frequently verbal, involving insults, constant criticism, harsh demands, threats and yelling.
Sexual: Rape, incest, fondling, indecent exposure, using a child in pornography or exposing a child to pornographic material.
Medical: Intentionally trying to make a child sick or not treating a medical condition.
Is child neglect a form of child abuse?
Yes. Child neglect is a form of abuse. Neglect is failing to provide a child with food, shelter, education, medical care and emotional support.
What is incest?
Incest is a sexual act between family members who are too closely related to be legally married. The sex act can be anything from fondling to intercourse. Any sexual act with a child is abuse.
How does sexual abuse affect a child?
Researchers have noted certain characteristics in children who have experienced abuse. Some behaviors may be more noticeable, such as:
Acting out sexually in inappropriate ways.
Return to childish behaviors such as thumb-sucking and bedwetting.
Self-destructive behavior, such as cutting and self-harm.
Severe behavioral changes.
Other characteristics may be harder to identify, such as:
Difficulty learning and concentrating.
Evidence of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Lack of emotional development.
Suicidal thoughts and/or attempts.
How common is child abuse?
Child neglect and child abuse are common. At least 1 in 7 children has experienced neglect in the past year. The actual figure is likely higher. In the United States in 2018, nearly 1,770 children died of abuse and neglect.
What are signs of child abuse?
Signs of child abuse may not be obvious. You may first notice a shift in the child’s behavior. Or they may react differently to situations. Any change in a child’s behavior or temperament without an obvious trigger can be a sign of abuse.
Other signs of child abuse include:
Looking unclean or neglected.
Unexplained bruises, welts, sores or skin problems that don’t seem to heal.
Untreated medical or dental problems.
Pain in the genital area.
Vaginal bleeding other than a menstrual cycle (period).
Unusual discharge or pain.
Fear of one or both parents or caregivers (including babysitters, day care workers, teachers and coaches).
Fear of an activity or place.
Crying often or in situations that seem inappropriate.
Regression (returning to behaviors typical of a younger child).
Acting different from other children, especially if it’s a sudden change.
Frequent absences from school.
Bullying peers or younger children or being bullied themselves.
Trouble learning and paying attention.
Avoiding physical contact with adults, peers or older youth.
Overachievement or being overly eager to please.
Unusual sexualized behaviors or comments, especially ones that seem more mature or pornographic.
Who can be an abuser?
Frequently, the abuser is someone the child knows and is close to, including;
Parent or other family member.
Anyone close to the child (teacher, coach, religious leader).
Peers or older children who have experienced abuse themselves and are re-enacting what happened to them.
Why do people abuse children?
Several situations can result in a person abusing a child:
History of abuse: Parents or other adults who hurt children may have experienced abuse themselves. Experiencing abuse can also lead an adult to look the other way if their child is in an abusive situation. However, not all people who experienced abuse will abuse others. Most survivors of child abuse do not harm children.
Difficulty with caring for children: Some adults hurt children because they don’t know how to discipline them. Or they have unrealistic expectations for the child’s behavior.
Feelings of anger: Some people who abuse have overwhelming feelings of anger when faced with a problem. They may have problems with family, money, work or relationships. Their frustration and anger can result in abusive actions. In some cases, the person sees the child as the source of the problems, causing them to act out against the child.
If you have abused or neglected a child or witnessed signs of child abuse, seek help from a local mental health agency. Getting help can prevent or reduce the child’s long-term trauma.
How can I stop child abuse?
Take action if you notice signs of child abuse or if abuse is happening in your house.
Talk to the child: Talk to the child if you notice a change in their behavior or if they start reacting in worrisome new ways. Having open, friendly conversations (within healthy boundaries) allows the child to trust you and feel comfortable telling you if they don’t feel safe. Let children know it’s OK to tell you something even if it might upset someone.
Seek help: Don’t let fear or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. When you contact authorities to report abuse, your name is not released to the family or person involved. If you suspect that a child is experiencing abuse, call or contact:
911 if the child is in immediate danger.
Your local child protective agency, police or hospital.
The Child Help National Child Abuse hotline (1-800-422-4453), open 24/7.
Pediatrician, who can also help direct you in cases of child abuse.
Religious or spiritual advisor, who can provide counseling and support.
If you think you have abused a child or are at risk for committing abuse:
Reach out to a friend, family member and health professional.
Make sure the child is safe and away from you during this time.
Seek a counselor who can help you understand and work through your feelings.
What is the outlook for children who have been abused?
Children who experience abuse may have:
Immediate injuries, including cuts, bruises and broken bones.
Emotional, psychological and behavioral problems, including depression.
Anxiety and difficulty with social skills.
Fear of certain adults or places.
Child abuse can leave a lasting impact on children if left untreated. Adult survivors of child abuse are more likely to have social and emotional problems. They may:
Abuse others or accept abuse.
Care for others at the expense of their own well-being.
Have sexual issues, including engaging in risky sexual behavior, becoming sexually promiscuous or avoiding sex entirely.
Have trouble trusting people.
Adult survivors may also have medical and behavioral problems such as:
Chronic pain, daily headaches, fibromyalgia and abdominal pain.
Substance use order or alcohol use disorder.
Toxic stress, which can affect brain development and increase the risk for PTSD and learning, attention and memory problems.
A MESSAGE FROM THE MUSCLE WHISPERER...
Overcoming such a traumatic experience takes courage. I am here for you, to help whenever you are ready.